Part of the reason I started this blog, as well as my champagneandblackcoffee Instagram account, was to motivate myself to step outside of the lazy little style box I had created over time. I wanted to stop falling back on the standard excuses as to why I don’t make time for me or put effort into the way I look and present myself every day. // I’m super busy. I’m a Mom. Things are different now. I have other priorities. I need sleep. I’m not trying to impress anyone anyway. // I have a way of always defaulting to my handful of “favorite” outfits and comfort-first shoes (meaning, the ones I always grabbed in a hurry because, They’ll do.) and naturally find reasons to rationalize wearing yoga pants and tights for any and every occasion… Not that there’s anything wrong with any of those things. 🙂 But for me it’s bigger than these little superficial gripes about myself. For me it’s more about loving myself as I am, taking style risks and feeling confident about them, and getting out of the life slump I didn’t even really know I was in at first. I needed to create a spark and this is my version of it.
In publicizing and socializing my personal style choices and reasons behind them, I am, in a way, holding myself accountable for getting up and getting dressed every day, not just putting on some clothes and rushing out the door. I’m motivating myself to plan and create and try new things while still staying true to my personal style and what I’m attracted to in others. I’m creating an opportunity for myself to get out of my own head and live outside of this indifferent (i.e. miserable and critical) little box I live in some days. Fashion and makeup and hair – all of those things are very surface and superficial, I know that. But they can affect deeper components of your life and your well-being and even relationships. Think about it: If you’ve spent a long, lazy (amazing!) weekend lounging around in your yoga pants and a big t-shirt, not showering and doing absolutely nothing, but then you get up Monday morning and put on a really cute outfit and fix yourself up, do you not feel AMAZING? Every time I do this I wonder why I didn’t pull myself together sooner. I wonder what I could’ve accomplished instead of nothing!
I can tell you that after about 3 weeks of this new — accountability, we’ll call it — I love it. Not only do I feel more confident in myself, I’m also reading about different topics and following all sorts of interesting real bloggers. 🙂 I’m getting inspiration from all over the place and am working on putting some structure around all the crazy ideas in my head that keep me up at night. (those ideas are another story for another time!) I’m digging through all of my boxed up pre-pregnancy clothes and pulling together all sorts of styles from my existing closet, plus I’m making more interesting purchase decisions when I do shop. It’s a win win win, honestly.
Yesterday, kind of on a whim, I decided I wanted to challenge myself even further. I decided that I wanted to make sure that I do something each week that is clearly outside of my comfort zone. It can be a style choice, an activity, anything really, but do something that makes me feel a tad uncomfortable, but in a good way. A few hours after I made this unspoken decision, I was in the Houston Hobby airport and had about an hour before catching my flight home. I waltzed right into the MAC Cosmetics store and worked with one of the makeup artists to “find the perfect bold lip color”. I’m a serial Chapstick user and may even, every once in awhile, wear a pink or nude lip gloss, but rarely anything other than that and definitely never anything BOLD. So after covering my entire hand in about 15 different colors and trying out 5 or 6 of them, I walked out of there with a bold red lip and a brand new lip color unlike any I’ve ever owned or worn. And it’s not just hiding in my bag, never to be seen again – I’m wearing it at work today, in real life. 🙂 Go ahead, create a challenge for yourself today. I think you’ll like the outcome!
MAC Cosmetics Velvetease Lip Pencil in Reddy To Go